If you follow this blog or my tweets or even heaven forbid, read any of my novels you will quickly discern that I care about people. I may not like some of them from time to time, but I certainly do love them.
What does that look like?
Sitting in a restaurant the other night the waitress was downtrodden. It was evident that she did not want to be there. I watched her interact with customers. In some ways, they mirrored what she was putting out. Much like the sun reflects warm energy off of most surfaces her macabre energy if you will, was affecting those around her.
Moods are catchy!
The hostess sat us in her section, and I just about read her mind. “Great, more people to serve.”
Pasting on her smile, she put the menu in front of me and began her programmatic spiel.
“Can I get you something to drink while you look at the menu?”
I took a deep breath trying to negate her negative energy and launched into my “spiel.”
“Hey, how are you doing tonight?”
I broke the program, she was expecting me to say water or tea or something along those lines.
“Tired, been a long day.” She replied.
“That is a pretty necklace you have, is it special?”
“Yeah kind of, my mom gave it to me.”
“You are a lucky girl to have a mother with such good taste!”
A smile breached her face as her mind drifted back to some event where she received the neckless. I swear I could just about see her receiving it from her mother.
“I guess I am,” she said.
“You work here, tell me, what is the chef good at making, or what do you like to eat here?”
Seeking her opinion is empowering her. She now feels that she has something to contribute which indeed she does.
Her mind changed gears once again as she thought about the things that she has served all day and who the chef was and what sounded “yummy” to her.
Thoughtfully she responded with something that she liked. I smiled at her and told her that sounded good. I then asked her what her name was.
I will use the name Monica which was not her name but for this blog, just in case she sees it, I would not want to embarrass her.
“That is a lovely name, your mother not only has good taste in jewelry but, in picking names.”
Her face had warmed with my few moments of “loving her.”
Using her name when in communication with her the rest of the evening “re-humanized” her.
We are not our jobs.
I don’t care what your vocation happens to be, you are no better or no more dishonorable than anyone else according to yours or their profession. The minute that you think that specific jobs or tasks are beneath you, the slippery slope of humanity vs. humility will elude you.
We can dehumanize someone by what we say, do or how we act. Someone needs to do these jobs. Before some tech firm develops a robot for this job or that which is genuinely dehumanizing just maybe we should look at any job as an opportunity instead of some menial task that somehow defines us.
I worked at the Texas Medical Center for fifteen years. I am here to tell you that most doctors would not agree with what I am saying. It is their loss and short-sightedness too. In most of their eyes, much like some lawyers, they are the top dog, crème of the crop better than anyone else even those folks in Hollywood.
We see it all the time. We see it in Hollywood in spades. Those that give themselves awards for how great they are! Indeed those folks are missing the boat. What a hollow life it must be.
There is this story about Barbara Streisand. It has been reported that she will not allow her “servants” to look her in the face. I pray that story is false however I have heard it many times from many different sources.
Folks, I make a point to speak with the people who collect the refuse from our homes, or at the office. I make it a point to know their names and use them when I see them. What they do for a living does not define who they are.
I am not telling you this for you to think better of me, I am mentioning this to you as I like to lead by example. Since you do not know me, other than from my musings or my writings I must write about it to pass it on.
I have followed the shooting in Santa Fe Texas. They have not released much but the stories told by the victims are telling.
This person who killed those that he did not like had low self-esteem. Was he bullied by his peers? Was he slow or awkward? Was he fat or smelly? What was it about him that made him unappealing to those who he hated?
The full story may never be known.
When you toss a pebble in a pond, the energy from that action ripples out to the edges of that pond. The small waves might have some effect on the shoreline of that pond.
When an event like the mass shootings occurs, those events send out waves into the world.
The person who shot up the church on the East coast did so to provoke a race war. Those in that church realized that not all white people wish harm to black folks and his plan was foiled by logic and love.
His actions did, however, spark a rebellion against the Rebel Flag. Some could argue that it started the uprising against the statues and shamefully history.
We still don’t know why the person in Las Vegas killed so many at that concert. The waves are still being felt, as many are practicing Knee Jerk reactions including sparking the gun control debate.
The reasons for the delay in the information release I am sure has to do with litigious actions by so many who were affected.
In order to mitigate their losses somehow, they are sequestering the facts of this case.
The Florida shooting has many young people taking guidance from those with an agenda to push for gun control instead of addressing the failures of the system. Florida of all of these unfortunate events should have never ever happened! There were way too many red flags and yet they were all ignored.
While it is easy to blame the NRA and of course the Republicans, that is a lie and a fallacy and will get us nowhere. Should those 17 lost lives be used for political gains? The liberal media is ok with it.
Root Cause Analysis
In my line of work, I perform a root cause analysis when something goes awry. I am like the forensic data miner who unravels the bits and bytes to see why something failed. My expertise in this area includes the sum total of over 30 years of twiddling bits.
Providing companies with things like business continuity plans to disaster recovery plans I also provide security plans right down to the physical security.
It becomes incumbent on us to unravel the events to see where things went wrong. To point fingers at one group or another instead of the facts is disingenuous at best and loathsome at its core.
The Florida debacle is still a debacle because those in charge will not accept accountability for their failures. They would rather let the emotional kids disrespect a sitting president and aim their vitriol toward the NRA instead of focusing on the failures of those who were paid for and expected to protect them. In short, they are diverting your attention away from them to the NRA.
When you fail to acknowledge where the actual failure was or is, nothing will be accomplished.
It is easy to blame a “target” like the NRA or the president because CNN and others are willing accomplices to the lies. Our own local paper after the truth came out of the shooting in Texas lied about the weapons used calling them “AR Style” guns.
It was a shotgun and a 38 revolver. Why would they knowingly lie?
AR or assault rifle is a deliberate term to trigger an emotional response. They too are part of the problem and not the solution. It is yellow journalism and a sad day for this country when the media is complicit and part of the problem.
A root cause analysis must be performed in every such event with the chips falling where they may. The truth must be discovered, or we learn nothing and those that died, did so in vain.
I am confident that there must have been red flags but what were they?
We must learn from this as that is the only way we can prevent it in the future.
Love must triumph over evil.
I get e-mails from time to time asking me about the blogs vs. my writings or novels.
“It appears that you are a church going person, how can you write novels with sex and lesbian stuff and spanking in them?”
The short answer is that I am human, like you. I have my public face, my private face, and sometimes bedroom eyes. That makes me normal.
Sexuality is part and parcel of who we are. Without it, I dare say we would not exist.
I find nothing wrong with foreplay among consenting adults and I certainly will not stand in judgment of those of the same sex who love one another.
I will stand up to bullies of any kind, and that includes lesbians or others who use their sexuality as a weapon.
Labels are ugly things that we all should rail against.
What people do in the privacy of their own home is their business. I have many friends who are gay and I love them unconditionally. I have many friends who are straight and the same applies. Judging you or them is way above my pay grade.
I have stated in many of my novels that God is outside of time and space. Omnipresent means that he sees the beginning and end in one instant. That means my dear friends that he knew you before you were born. He knew what you were going to do and allowed you to form and be born.
Is that a guarantee that we will all be in heaven together when this is over?
Are you responsible for me or someone else’s actions?
I love that scripture regarding the chip on their shoulder and the log, on yours.
Don’t throw stones in a glass house…
Bottom line, don’t judge anyone else, just worry about your own actions and let God sort out the rest of it.
I am currently working on re-editing the Hole in Time series and in some cases working on the cover art. So many have commented on them over the many months and I listened. That series was designed to be a lunchtime read.
Going back into the text I have found a few bloopers that I have addressed and will continue during the weeks ahead. Most of them are a free read on Amazon Kindle Unlimited.
Much Love -TW